This week’s conversations in the healing sessions were mostly about love, so here is the subject for today. Confronting people with their own paradox of feelings, on gets to reflect more on the topic. Love may be blissful, but it usually is painful, generating fears and frustrations in addition to the sheer, deep pain.
And because answers always come when you ask the right question, immediately after meditating on love’s suffering, an Osho quote landed on my desktop. It explains how the trigger makes a certain aspect become obvious in the mirror of your beloved. Read the quote. Note the behavior. Watch the reaction. It is apparently simple but it requires effort to re-train the mind. Once accomplished, the new pattern of constructive thinking starts generating positive responses. Do it, watch it be patient: the more you are used to the negative states of thought, the longer it will take to dissolve those patterns and get into the creative, love-generating mind.
Relationship is a mirror, and the purer the love is, the higher the love is, the better the mirror, the cleaner the mirror. But the higher love needs that you should be open. The higher love needs you to be vulnerable. You have to drop your armor; that is painful. You have not to be constantly on guard. You have to drop the calculating mind. You have to risk. You have to live dangerously.
The other can hurt you; that is the fear in being vulnerable. The other can reject you; that is the fear in being in love. The reflection that you will find in the other of your own self may be ugly; that is the anxiety. Avoid the mirror. But by avoiding the mirror you are not going to become beautiful. By avoiding the situation you are not going to grow either.
The challenge has to be taken. One has to go into love. That is the first step towards Divine, and it cannot be bypassed. Those who try to bypass the step of love will never reach Divine. That is absolutely necessary because you become aware of your totality only when you are provoked by the presence of the other, when your presence is enhanced by the presence of the other, when you are brought out of your narcissistic, closed world under the open sky.
If you like this alternative and you are ready to try it, just remember that it takes 21 days to teach the mind something…. keep this focus for three weeks in a row, with ZERO expectations. Comment on this article when you find that the strategy works. It will help many others, and build more energy in your turnaround endeavor.