Being Present

be here and now

I owe this article to my friend Nastya, who started the debate :  should we speak more about the concept of being present or about how to do it?  The answer is both. We are here, in the reality knot of the probabilities, having the possibility of choosing the desired path from a continuous series of crossroads. Sometimes, so busy regreting we did not do this or that, or sorry for what we did do, that we cannot see what is presented right before our eyes.

The proposals of Universe are never coming to the central axis of our sight or consciousness. They are always lateral, like side breezes caressing our mind, or marginal glimpses in the visual field, or small, almost subliminal whispers of the higher consciousness. Unless we are present, we cannot receive these precious pieces of information. Sometimes they come in an encrypted form, or this is how our brain perceives them, so if we are not there, we will just lose the moment of perception and, with it, the opportunity.

The same thing happens if we slide into unnecessary worry for the future. Not only we are not present to make the choice, but we also widen the probability path for an unwanted choice in the crossroad. Fear of future, instead of sincere, open belief that everything happening is like a riverbed that allows for our little stream of consciousness to come back to the greater Ocean that has so many names, prevents us from making this apparently strange return. Why should life be about returning and not about going? Because we are like batteries that need to reconnect to the Source in order to recharge. Once the reconnection process happens, we kind of know the way to the plug, time and again, so our autonomy turns from limited to infinite, and we can finally make the supreme, seemingly impossible long journey to who we really are.

It is clear now that the maximum creation potential is in the Now. The dilemma we all had or have – or maybe, after reading this, you are going to have it – is what is the practical way to be present, aware and make the choices enabling anyone to proceed with personal evolution.

It is much simpler than we expect. The easiest way comes from the Theravada Buddhism, and it is about focusing on the breath. Sit or lie down. On the floor, in your bed, on a comfortable chair or outside, in the sun, on a lawn. It really does not matter, just choose the place that makes you comfortable. The important part is to have the type of position and place that makes you worry less about the body. The body should take care of itself.

Now, just focus on Now. With every out-breath. If the mind drifts, do not cling to the focus, do not punish yourself, do not analyse where and why it went. Just re-focus on your breath. On the out-breath, because after the out-breath there is nothing. That nothingness is the seed of potential, of creation, of All There Is. STay with it.  Wonderful side effects might happen: feeling suddenly at peace, quiet, joyful… or more. Just stay there.

Some enjoy listening to the sounds or playing with other senses. Dive into the visual sensation of the clouds floating on the sky, listen to the minute sounds around you, either you are surrounded by Nature or human made environments, examine the scents (that one needs a good setting to avoid annoying ones) and see how much awareness of Now this brings.

As you get used to it, extend the time, bring the practice into the daily routines, and start focusing on being present while you do things. Your sensory experiences will help with it. Relax the lateral part of your consciousness. Signs will appear – shamans have always known that and a part of their teaching is to develop this lateral awareness so that one can receive the input / proposals of the Universe.

Last, but not least, this constant training for being here and now will lead to an enhanced feeling of who you are. Some describe a kind of landing of a deeper sense of Presence, a higher Presence, like we are suddenly immersed in a wider and much deeper consciousness. We call it the Presence.

It may come with the first experience or after a long, long series of attempts. Do not set expectations, just go with the process. Let your curiosity and awareness discover what is there to be discovered, and enjoy each small step forward. Reward yourself for it and patiently go for the next step.

It is like a slow sculpting of Yourself. It takes time, serenity, and clarity of the purpose. Let the circumstances work out the best way for you. Just breathe out, listen, get the perceptions. Then think about what you got during the experience… some have their first conversation with God in such an attempt :). Trust your inner wisdom, the one we call intuition, to validate the experience. And continue.

leave your emotional luggage behind.

Stress. Anxiety. Fear. Anger. Feeling disempowered. How can you get back into calm, balance and being sure there is an extra supply of inner power that you can always use in times of need?

There is counseling. There are shrinks.

And then… there are old, old tools: the mudras and the mantras: gestures and sacred phrases, many of them ancient, that magically open the energy pipelines to leave you refreshed and enjoying your inner quiet space. Here is an emergency pack that you can use.

Let’s start with the beginning:

1. Abhyasa Mudra for courage and fearlessness, works on anxietyDSCF0018

Place cupped right hand in front of belly with palm facing up. Hold left hand with palm forward beside left shoulder.

ahyana mudra

2. Avhana Mudra for increasing the ability to receive and accepting help from others
Place palms beside each other, little fingers touching, press thumbs into base of index finger, hold other fingers together; place hands at solar plexus.


kalesvara mudra

Kaleswara Mudra for self-esteem. Fights all addictions. 
Begin with palms together. Bend index fingers toward each other until knuckles touch, extend middle finger tips together, curl ring and pinkie fingers inward, not touching. Draw thumb points toward body.

pushan mudra4. Pushan Mudra – a great relaxation trigger, works on stressors we are internalizing
Right Hand: Touch tips of thumb, index & middle fingers together, extend all others.
Left Hand: Touch tips of thumb, middle & ring fingers together, extend all others. Rest hands with palms up.

garuda mudra

5. Garuda Mudra for unblocking stuck emotions or life obstacles. 
Cross the left wrist in front of the right and interlace the thumbs together, splay the other fingers over the upper chest.
Benefits: Balances the right and left sides of the body, creates a sense of freedom
Use it with caution if you have high blood pressure .


Use each mudra for about five minutes… or until it becomes uncomfortable. Many seem easy but they really need some work with the muscles and tendons.

The mudra may be accompanied by a mantra. Here is a short list that you might try and see if there is anything you like:


RA MA DA SA SA SE SO HAM (total merger of self infinity with What Is)

SAT NAM (invoking the truth)


You can find them on the Internet, play them and chant while you perform the mudra. There are several versions, just choose the one you really enjoy 🙂



Turn around your love life.

ImageThis week’s conversations in the healing sessions were mostly about love, so here is the subject for today. Confronting people with their own paradox of feelings, on gets to reflect more on the topic. Love may be blissful, but it usually is painful, generating fears and frustrations in addition to the sheer, deep pain.

And because answers always come when you ask the right question, immediately after meditating on love’s suffering, an Osho quote landed on my desktop. It explains how the trigger makes a certain aspect become obvious in the mirror of your beloved.  Read the quote. Note the behavior. Watch the reaction. It is apparently simple but it requires effort to re-train the mind. Once accomplished, the new pattern of constructive thinking starts generating positive responses. Do it, watch it be patient: the more you are used to the negative states of thought, the longer it will take to dissolve those patterns and get into the creative, love-generating mind.

ImageRelationship is a mirror, and the purer the love is, the higher the love is, the better the mirror, the cleaner the mirror. But the higher love needs that you should be open. The higher love needs you to be vulnerable. You have to drop your armor; that is painful. You have not to be constantly on guard. You have to drop the calculating mind. You have to risk. You have to live dangerously. 

The other can hurt you; that is the fear in being vulnerable. The other can reject you; that is the fear in being in love. The reflection that you will find in the other of your own self may be ugly; that is the anxiety. Avoid the mirror. But by avoiding the mirror you are not going to become beautiful. By avoiding the situation you are not going to grow either. 

The challenge has to be taken. One has to go into love. That is the first step towards Divine, and it cannot be bypassed. Those who try to bypass the step of love will never reach Divine. That is absolutely necessary because you become aware of your totality only when you are provoked by the presence of the other, when your presence is enhanced by the presence of the other, when you are brought out of your narcissistic, closed world under the open sky.


If you like this alternative and you are ready to try it, just remember that it takes 21 days to teach the mind something…. keep this focus for three weeks in a row, with ZERO expectations. Comment on this article when you find that the strategy works. It will help many others, and build more energy in your turnaround endeavor.


What would Love do now?

Love would radiate.

Early morning. I am flowing on the street, in my little yellow Smart car, to the meetings of today. The line is moving slowly, at the speed of the slowest driver. Useless car corn sounds, people are in a rush, people are angry, people are. I refuse to get frustrated, because the chillout music is dripping from the speakers and last night’s continuous coughing drained me.

Then I wonder. What would Love do now? and the left hand raises above the steering wheel,  golden light springs from it, like small precious minuscule scales floating in the sunlight and diffusing into everything on the road.

It is noon. A sun so hot it makes you confused. On the street that gets me home, right across from the subway station, traffic is blocked. Orange police plastic pawns trace a boundary on the asphalt. A police car set like a barrier. Chalk marks on the grey road. The black and yellow plastic measuring tape. I freeze. A few white pearls quietly lay on the road. Next to a car wheel, a bottle of water fallen from a woman’s hand.

The, I get myself together and ask: is there something I can do at this moment, in this present reality? and the hot July afternoon, teaming with butterfiles, I send the good thought, golden and loving, straight from my heart, to that young woman who is already in the ER of a hospital. She will live. There will be a lot of hard recovery work after she ran across a busy street.

I get home.

In my bedroom, the spoiled lemon tree I got as a gift for my birthday gives me a present: a first ripe fruit that fell off a branch. Apparently, this lemon fruit stayed the same since I got the tree.

Actually it grew a lot since March. I am happy I did not pick it earlier, because this wonderful plant gave it to me when the time was right. When it got really ripe.

So I spent some time contemplating the wonder of the existence of this fruit. My relationship with this frail but strong little tree and the contrast between the tiny branch and the heavy, sensuous lemon. I sent a thank you thought to the tree and mentally hugged the authors of the present. My giant lemon, demonstrating that all you need to do is love. Unconditionally. I ask myself again: what would Love do now? I think it would share the lemon with as many friends as possible. It will get into the cups of tea that all my visitors get when they enter the door.

What I am trying to say is that Mastery is a path that flows, unseen, parallel with each second of Today.  Today only, now only, try for a second to do what a Master would do, not what a human would do. Try what Love would do. That turns life into a continous miracle.