The Heart Shift

fusing polarityDuring the past few weeks, people came in sessions questioning the events happening around them. Most of the times, the events were a perfect mirror of the person’s inner state, although they tended to blame others for what was happening . But this way of thinking  is a boomerang: what sets a person free is working out their environment with no judgment.

If we just stop and be mindful of these things, we will begin to communicate with our heart center. The key question we need to ask when something goes ballistic in our lives is

What is really happening here?

“What is happening” is the part that is taking over the mind. The ego of the mind is  gradually shrinking when exposed to continuous focus. And then, the miracle happens: here comes a point where the ego accepts the  reality of a non-dualistic way of being, so that it can join the heart.

This is creating a shift in consciousness.

If you look at the consciousness in the fourteenth century, compared to today, the capability of psychology and thought are much more tuned nowadays. Consiousness is always on the rise, always changing. You are always learning new things and dropping other old things.

But some people carry old baggage and try to code everything in front of them by dragging the past with them, unsatisfied, unhappy, wondering what happened to them. What are they carrying in those bags? Patterns and programs that people cannot break loose from. Learned from the life we are in. The part of infinity they lived through. This is a moment of infinity.

It depends on how courageous we can be to teach the truth, to educate (ourselves and others) takes courage to stand up to old beliefs. Put them under the microscope of truth: should I be thinking this way? Question your own ideas. When the hearts are engaged, the fusion begins to work on the ego. This is a heart-led revolution that is going on. The heart is transmitting, people are beginning to feel it. Some see it, and this way salvation will not come from without, but within.

Love your Self. Be comfortable with your Self. Be at ease with your Self. We need to de-stress in this modern world. Those quiet moments in nature or meditation are the most profound healing we can do for our bodies. Meditation does not mean lying down, you can do it while walking. Feeling that every soul on the street is part of your soul.

We are so not looking in the right direction, because we were taught this way. Illusion is created by misdirection, like magician work. When we think in the wrong direction, the illusion is created. We need to change our perspective, and approach life from a different perspective. When you watch a football game, you really do not think you can influence it? One may get excited, but is this really changing the course of the game? We must bevery careful as magicians, that we do not curse our football teams with negative thoughts, with gossip and complaining, criticizing. Get on with the game! Be in the next moment. Sports is about being 1-2 seconds ahead what is going on.

mscIf you are dragging the past into your anticipation you are cutting down your chances. I’d rather uplift everybody instead of blaming them.

So then, shift happens the minute you question beliefs and behaviors. What you experience from the outside world means nothing, except what you make it. God does not judge, and neither should you. Be free, relaxed and curious instead of exercising your old programming and projections, and watch your life taking a new turn, once lived from the heart.

Stuck in programs

About one year ago, in a workshop in Romania, we met a beautiful woman. Amazingly beautiful and smart. Working for a bank, absolutely miserable because of not having a relationship. We worked with her in a private session and the physical result of that is that she finally moved the ring from the fourth finger of the left hand to free up the space for a new relationship. Before she left, she said: “I would give everything for a relationship.”

Yesterday, she showed up. She is deeply in love with a man – and her own words were broke, jobless, frustrated, desperate. I am stuck, she said. A torid love story took her out of her job in Italy and got her into the house of the current boyfriend (yes, she asked for a relationship and she got one). She is structured, he is not. He tends to start lots of  things and it gets difficult to finish them, therefore he is paid little and late. The financial insecurity is unbearable. A whole family lives in the same courtyard. Her beautiful nails are gone. She scrubs and cooks all day. She feels she has no energy and she cannot cry.

Where to begin with this situation that seems so familiar?

Exactly. What happens outside is a reflection of what we think about ourselves. How we feel inside. The roles in this couple had reversed. She is doing all masculine actions – looking for the money, organizing it, setting actions to clarify the legal status of the house, pushing her partner to accomplish more instead of supporting him. If the lion looks into the mirror and sees a ragged cat, that’s what he is.

What to do in such a situation? It is clear that everything starts from the way we think. If we keep thinking “I have no money”, “this relationship is not working “, “I hate this house”, this will give energy to the obstacle, not to the solution. Energy flows where attention goes. If your attention is going towards the blockage, you are just repeating and reinforcing the obstacle. Consolidating it. So, first action is to stop saying these words. Think about what you say, because it can be a blessing or it can be a curse. Stop cursing yourself.

Secondly, it is clear that the situation is one of lost femininity, so the prescription was about recovering it by focusing on what is feminine. Compassion, gentleness, intuition, softness, support, beauty, teaching. These are the elements of homework.

Thirdly, about applying all these: behaviors change in time. It takes at least 21 days for the mind to learn a new behavior, and up to 6 months to automate it. So, when you want to start working on something, choose one thing – such as looking at what you say – and practice that for at least three weeks. Assess the result and continue without slashing yourself if you are not up to par. Do not embark in tasks that produce a lot of discomfort. Choose methods and tools that speak to your heart, know that they are taking you on a journey of rediscovery and allow them so work on you like water: gently infiltrating, expanding, penetrating and finally mastering your new structure. It is a mental make-over, work it out gradually and patiently.

Make sure you have a supporter or a coach to assist with encouragement and support through moments of crisis or breakdown. And enjoy every bit of the process, because it leads you to a better you. A more authentic you. Good luck and congratulations for the courage to change something.

Creating from the place of silence

Blessed are the Peacemakers. As usual, ancient texts have deeper meanings than the one we typically read. One of the meanings is our ability to experience deep connections when we get to our silent core. Most usually, the method is meditation, but sometimes these instances of silence occur incidentally, and suddenly we find ourselves immersed in this deep Peace, or Silence, or Nothingness. It is a wonderful place to start our creation: thoughts originating from our silent core become easily reality.

The dilemma is about what we manifest, of course. Here are three real-life examples:

1. The phone is out, sent to be serviced, so the agenda is vanished. The replacement phone is completely ignorant, when calls are needed, something happens: the person you have been intensely thinking of is calling you. Then you would like to send a birthday greeting SMS, but there is no number… so you get messaged via Facebook by the same person.

2. She is in a tense situation. Real tense. She feels something might be wrong with her partner. The marriage is flowering, but there are fears and uncertainty and lots of anxiety. What happens next is mind boggling. Her next door neighbor is completely rebuilding the house, which results in a 3-month ordeal. The other next door neighbor is opening a business that makes a lot of noise. This looks like a true reflection of her personal life…

3. Business is slowing down. The normal question arising in anyone’s mind is “and now what?”. So, from that place of silence, creative ideas arise. Suddenly, strategy and structure. A new starting point. The only thing is to follow it :), and things are back in the flow. Frozen projects, resumed. New ones dawning. Life is good, after all.

These are first-hand events. All of them happened in 3 hours :), after a short silent meditation on Peace.

Blessed are the Peacemakers, since once one radiates this state, grace overflows into the lives of everyone around with an incomparable abundance of Gifts. All kinds of Gifts. Peace is our Source, and we are Peace. Whenever we remember this and re-experience our inner sacred silence, we are back into creating, again and again, our happiness.

If you need tools and methods to help you reach your Peace, just drop a line here, in the comments section.