Clean up your hard disk

A beautiful girl walks by her: instantaneously, the mind starts judging: who is the prettiest girl in the world? Not me. Actually, she is comparing herself with a beautiful girl and produces a judgment. This judgment is like an internet cookie, is is meant to file the respective experience. In the filing process, the experience needs to receive a tag, and the tag says: I am not that pretty, they are so much prettier than me.

Something bigger than me.

A guy stops at the traffic light. Next car is an Audi, latest model. He feels humiliated, the other guy drives a better car. I do not deserve respect, he tells himself. He envies the product of that bank account which paid for the Audi. I am not good enough, he tells himself.

A baby knows first the mother. Her smell, the touch, her sounds. Mother means safety, something emotionally bice. One day, the Mama cookie issues the first no. The cookie library is struck by havoc: what is this???  We must file this in a new cookie, because it is different from the Mother cookie. And so on: along our lifetime, we develop an entire bank of cookies.  If the experience fits one of these cookies, it produces  an emotion, at a speed that is higher than Internet. Before our rational mind gets the message, the cookie bank makes one make a choice, already, by surfacing the emotion this bank considers adequate to the situation.

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The cookies dig, excavate to find your choices, so that they can produce the decisions they think you want. Sometimes, these decisions are lousy because they are produced by the respective emotions. Out of the emotional content of your hard drive, each time you experience something new, the cookie forest tries to connect with previous experiences. This instantaneous categorizing is the one making you receive, for the first time, a piece of information and decide whether you should be joyful or afraid. The system says if it is good or bad, and has continuously been doing this since your first gulp of air.

And if this was not enough, there are subcookies, too. Filtered in categories. The biggest cookie, the one that wins, is the one that supplies the most emotional content. It is like advertising: the cookie decides who you are, how will you show yourself to the world, and this is how, according to the respective observation, it will dictate what kind of person will you be. The advertising appears from cookies, under the form of emotions.

Your hard drive has not been cleaned for a long time. It still contains all the cookies since you were a child. It would be great to have an adult bank of cookies, a sound mind bank of cooies or, even better,  a spiritual cookies bank. We are a computer with an operation system that no one updated in a long time. That is why people keep bringing the same things to the table, again and again, even if these things are not what they want. It is like they want to be constantly upset: every day, the same thing, reflecting onto themselves and therefore they get more of what they do not want.

If these cookies do not lead to behaviours able to express yourself the way you want to be, it is time for a clean up. There are several methods to do that: through rational thinking (men are the champions of that), through meditation, through starting to be honest with yourself, through therapy… If people can understand they function like a computer, they can become observers of this computer and not the operating system. They can choose  how to react, instead of whining. The observer observes the emotion and thinks: what is really happening here? Does this mean anything? Why am I feeling so uncomfortable? Why am I so suspicious?

Enter the system and delete, delete, delete. If you find something nice, full of love, keep those “good” cookies. What they do is like when you let someone merge the traffic when coming from a side street.Eventually, someone will let you, too, merge. The energy we radiate comes back to us, just like a cookie: you click it and the Univers sends you more. These are the good cookies. Print the image of  a Ferrari and work to get it: the chances to actually own one will grow. Working on the garage might also be a good idea 🙂 .

Many people do not see their beliefs, but they live those beliefs. The cookies becom beliefs, a set of rules you have created for yourself, subconsciously. the world around you, the people you meet, the situations. They create the “advertising” that calls for the next situation.

What we need is a set of principles to live by.  One that we set, not an external one or a subconscious one. We need to put a filter in front of the cookie that will have to pass those principles to be correctly assessed, canceled or recognized as important. But we will talk about these next time.

Stuck in programs

About one year ago, in a workshop in Romania, we met a beautiful woman. Amazingly beautiful and smart. Working for a bank, absolutely miserable because of not having a relationship. We worked with her in a private session and the physical result of that is that she finally moved the ring from the fourth finger of the left hand to free up the space for a new relationship. Before she left, she said: “I would give everything for a relationship.”

Yesterday, she showed up. She is deeply in love with a man – and her own words were broke, jobless, frustrated, desperate. I am stuck, she said. A torid love story took her out of her job in Italy and got her into the house of the current boyfriend (yes, she asked for a relationship and she got one). She is structured, he is not. He tends to start lots of  things and it gets difficult to finish them, therefore he is paid little and late. The financial insecurity is unbearable. A whole family lives in the same courtyard. Her beautiful nails are gone. She scrubs and cooks all day. She feels she has no energy and she cannot cry.

Where to begin with this situation that seems so familiar?

Exactly. What happens outside is a reflection of what we think about ourselves. How we feel inside. The roles in this couple had reversed. She is doing all masculine actions – looking for the money, organizing it, setting actions to clarify the legal status of the house, pushing her partner to accomplish more instead of supporting him. If the lion looks into the mirror and sees a ragged cat, that’s what he is.

What to do in such a situation? It is clear that everything starts from the way we think. If we keep thinking “I have no money”, “this relationship is not working “, “I hate this house”, this will give energy to the obstacle, not to the solution. Energy flows where attention goes. If your attention is going towards the blockage, you are just repeating and reinforcing the obstacle. Consolidating it. So, first action is to stop saying these words. Think about what you say, because it can be a blessing or it can be a curse. Stop cursing yourself.

Secondly, it is clear that the situation is one of lost femininity, so the prescription was about recovering it by focusing on what is feminine. Compassion, gentleness, intuition, softness, support, beauty, teaching. These are the elements of homework.

Thirdly, about applying all these: behaviors change in time. It takes at least 21 days for the mind to learn a new behavior, and up to 6 months to automate it. So, when you want to start working on something, choose one thing – such as looking at what you say – and practice that for at least three weeks. Assess the result and continue without slashing yourself if you are not up to par. Do not embark in tasks that produce a lot of discomfort. Choose methods and tools that speak to your heart, know that they are taking you on a journey of rediscovery and allow them so work on you like water: gently infiltrating, expanding, penetrating and finally mastering your new structure. It is a mental make-over, work it out gradually and patiently.

Make sure you have a supporter or a coach to assist with encouragement and support through moments of crisis or breakdown. And enjoy every bit of the process, because it leads you to a better you. A more authentic you. Good luck and congratulations for the courage to change something.

Change IS happening. Get in tune with it.

behaviors to avoidApril the 29th ends a potent cosmic context that might trigger havoc or bliss in our lives. It is the best moment to re-design ourselves and get rid of all behaviors that produce negativity and generate each other in the well-known vicious circle.

All behaviors described in the image are common and we usually say it is recommended to quit them – but there is too little we do in order to actually change something in the way we act.

The recipe is quite simple, but it takes weeks of concentrated effort to work on each bubble. If you really want to address these aspects, mind that there will be at least three weeks of focus needed for each little circle in order to get you tuned into the greater cosmic aspects:

  1. embrace your fears whenever they occur. Go fearward. If you are afraid of anything, try doing it.
  2. increase your vibration by doing things you like, meditating, going out into the nature, singing, praying or performing any spiritual practice that puts you in connection with the Greater energy.
  3. Us. Us. Us. This is your focus, not the egotistic one. You will be fine as long as we all are fine. Set yourself to offering something to someone everyday: a good conversation, a small gift, lunch, a minor loan. Compassion is the greatest change catalyst.
  4. Stop complaining there is no love in your life. Start offering without any expectation of receiving. And things will slowly and gradually change.
  5. bank accounts, houses, clothes and cars are not you.  Think about your true expression: what you do and how you do it. Stop thinking about money. Money comes as you create space for it to flow. Clutter such as “I do not have enough” fill your inner space so there is not much flow it can allow. Be gentle, inspired and light, and abundance will appear for sure.

29 aprEAll these go hand in hand with an enhanced sense of presence, connection and grounding. Now is the moment of being the now. Probably one of the determining moments in your life.

Get out, into a park or a forest, by the seaside or on a mountain track. Be there every second, noticing everything that is around you and taking the amount of time to feel this is home.

Keep your goals at the top of any list. Daydream about them. Align them with who you really are. The road will take many curves, it is never a straight line, but it does get you there once you know where you are heading.

And, most importantly, be open. Let go of the control. You do not control anything but yourself and, by mastering yourself, you will also master what is around you. Everything responds in the most lively way to your thoughts, feelings and mental projections: make sure you have the right ones in order to achieve the result that is best for you.

And leave a note here if you find it difficult. There are techniques and tools for everything, the most important is the intention of aligning all these behaviors. Good luck with smooth and swift change.

January 1: New Moon. Time for wishes.

The Moon. Celestial body of the emotions, carrier of our good and less good habits. Embodiment of potential. Since ancient times, the New Moon and Full Moon were times for planting and harvesting, and the shamans’ fires have been lighting up the nights of such phases for millennia.

The year of 2014 starts with a New Moon: time for planting, and that does not refer to cereals only, but to intentions, too: this is the best moment in the last years to set a personal evolution wish and send to the Universe the “order” for its manifestation. You can start this year in a different, profound, significant way, influencing all that is to happen. Here is how you can do it:

After having your midnight champagne, sit down and reflect upon the goal or purpose you most wish for: so deep and so important that every cell in your body yearns for it. The most hidden corner of the mind carries it. Take a pen and a paper  – you can do it as a group game, it will have even more power – and write down carefully what is that you wish for. A few notes about the notes:  :

– it is important to write what we wish, because this gives us clarity.

– write everything as it is happening now. Visualize the movie of your wish coming true, feel the sensations accompanying this fulfillment.

– refer to you and you only. The wish must not infringe the free will of anyone else: if it refers to someone, what you will write is the behavior changes you will experience, so that the desired situation is facilitated: for example, instead of writing “X loves me” you can write “I will become worthy of X’s love”.

– Check with your heart if what you have just written is correct. How do we do this? It is simple. Feel the joy and well-being emanating from what you wrote. That is the indication the text is “right”.

– Watch your words. What you write comes true exactly as it is written.

Ready? All written?  Your contract with the Universe has just been stamped, scanned and emailed for fulfillment. And it should be treated like any other contract: .once written, you do not revisit it all the time, but wait for it to happen, believing it will happen. At the right time. Take your paper, wrap it nicely, put it in a box on your altar or  next to your bed and wait without thinking about what it contains. Being detached from the object of our wish is an essential criterion for its manifestation.  

You may close your ceremony by planting something – a bean, a seed, a clove of garlic – but be careful with the caring and nurturing of this growing plant – or lighting up a fire to burn all that is old and make room for the new energies that you have just invoked in your note.

And so it is.

The Red Note


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Old spiritual traditions blend personal reprogramming techniques with ceremonial practice. That kind, good and true Magic that really exists. We are creating it. Probably you have already heard about all kinds of methods we can use to land our dreams into reality. The oriental ones work well on our European subconscious ground.

Working with a group a few nights ago we used the red note method. The idea is to write your intention on such a note and then go through a sequence of building the energy, focusing it and then detaching from the object of your intention. The purpose of this post is not to go through the technique, but to have a look at the intention.

I had my red note, too. I kept turning and tossing, thinking about what I could write on it. And, going throught he list that might fuel the soul or the immediate reality, I could not write anything on the note. 

I realized that the perfect, absolutely perfect red note is the one bearing no text. Of course I have a final, general, great personal objective. It was too big for the note. And the little, intermediary ones seemed like not worth qualifying for the red note. So… What was that great thing to be written on the red note?

Probably the subtitle of my empty red note is that I accept with trust and receive with joy all presents coming from Life, Universe,m God, because I know that each time I undo the ribbon and unwrap the box, I will know what to do with that gift. Be it a moment of pain or one of ecstasy, each of them is good for something.  We never get spare parts: the talent is to integrate these pieces into the enormous gear called I and that is our scope of work, tirelessly, from the second we had the first inbreath and got ready for our first scream.

It would be great if we were able to thank for all these gifts, bitter or sweet.

I adore my little red note.