A beautiful girl walks by her: instantaneously, the mind starts judging: who is the prettiest girl in the world? Not me. Actually, she is comparing herself with a beautiful girl and produces a judgment. This judgment is like an internet cookie, is is meant to file the respective experience. In the filing process, the experience needs to receive a tag, and the tag says: I am not that pretty, they are so much prettier than me.
Something bigger than me.
A guy stops at the traffic light. Next car is an Audi, latest model. He feels humiliated, the other guy drives a better car. I do not deserve respect, he tells himself. He envies the product of that bank account which paid for the Audi. I am not good enough, he tells himself.
A baby knows first the mother. Her smell, the touch, her sounds. Mother means safety, something emotionally bice. One day, the Mama cookie issues the first no. The cookie library is struck by havoc: what is this??? We must file this in a new cookie, because it is different from the Mother cookie. And so on: along our lifetime, we develop an entire bank of cookies. If the experience fits one of these cookies, it produces an emotion, at a speed that is higher than Internet. Before our rational mind gets the message, the cookie bank makes one make a choice, already, by surfacing the emotion this bank considers adequate to the situation.
The cookies dig, excavate to find your choices, so that they can produce the decisions they think you want. Sometimes, these decisions are lousy because they are produced by the respective emotions. Out of the emotional content of your hard drive, each time you experience something new, the cookie forest tries to connect with previous experiences. This instantaneous categorizing is the one making you receive, for the first time, a piece of information and decide whether you should be joyful or afraid. The system says if it is good or bad, and has continuously been doing this since your first gulp of air.
And if this was not enough, there are subcookies, too. Filtered in categories. The biggest cookie, the one that wins, is the one that supplies the most emotional content. It is like advertising: the cookie decides who you are, how will you show yourself to the world, and this is how, according to the respective observation, it will dictate what kind of person will you be. The advertising appears from cookies, under the form of emotions.
Your hard drive has not been cleaned for a long time. It still contains all the cookies since you were a child. It would be great to have an adult bank of cookies, a sound mind bank of cooies or, even better, a spiritual cookies bank. We are a computer with an operation system that no one updated in a long time. That is why people keep bringing the same things to the table, again and again, even if these things are not what they want. It is like they want to be constantly upset: every day, the same thing, reflecting onto themselves and therefore they get more of what they do not want.
If these cookies do not lead to behaviours able to express yourself the way you want to be, it is time for a clean up. There are several methods to do that: through rational thinking (men are the champions of that), through meditation, through starting to be honest with yourself, through therapy… If people can understand they function like a computer, they can become observers of this computer and not the operating system. They can choose how to react, instead of whining. The observer observes the emotion and thinks: what is really happening here? Does this mean anything? Why am I feeling so uncomfortable? Why am I so suspicious?
Enter the system and delete, delete, delete. If you find something nice, full of love, keep those “good” cookies. What they do is like when you let someone merge the traffic when coming from a side street.Eventually, someone will let you, too, merge. The energy we radiate comes back to us, just like a cookie: you click it and the Univers sends you more. These are the good cookies. Print the image of a Ferrari and work to get it: the chances to actually own one will grow. Working on the garage might also be a good idea 🙂 .
Many people do not see their beliefs, but they live those beliefs. The cookies becom beliefs, a set of rules you have created for yourself, subconsciously. the world around you, the people you meet, the situations. They create the “advertising” that calls for the next situation.
What we need is a set of principles to live by. One that we set, not an external one or a subconscious one. We need to put a filter in front of the cookie that will have to pass those principles to be correctly assessed, canceled or recognized as important. But we will talk about these next time.